How do you manage resentment?

Hey there. Wondering if anyone has advice on how they prevent resentment toward certain monosexual folks - particularly queer monosexuals who have bigoted beliefs about bi+ folks. I am listening to a podcast about “gay history” and they never mention bi+ folks. I’m listening to another podcast where a bi academic describes an esteemed lesbian professor tell her that bi+ I’m folks had no role in key historical events re the queer community and entirely discounted her when she brought up that the professor neglected to mention bisexuality at all in her lecture. They weren’t even counting bi+ people at that time so she literally just made that up. Queer history is my history too, but I can’t stand even listening to it because we are nonexistent.

It esp pisses me off that they say we have “straight passing privilege,” but fail to recognize or acknowledge the measurable health disparities existing between us and mono folks. More mental health issues, physical health issues, domestic violence, and sexual assault than mono folks - what wonderful privileges all those things are, esp for folks of color! It seems to me that instead of us needing to step it up and help them more bc we have “more privilege” that THEY need to step up and help US more.

All of these and other issues make me want to stick to my “own kind” - only spend time in bi+ spaces and avoid queer ones entirely. I know that attitude just creates more division under the Rainbow and it also gives those fuckers what they want. But it’s very difficult for me to be in those spaces without being consumed by my anger and resentment.

What do all of you do?