Anyone else dreading Valentine's Day?

Coming up quick. Curious to as who else on here is dreading Valentine's Day thanks to their pwBPD.

My pwBPD has already started her bullshit with regards to Valentine's Day. Just like she does every year. A few months ago she asked me if I wanted to celebrate Valentine's Day this year or just skip it. Since we've both had a lot of large expenses lately and are trying to pay debts off. And spend a lot of money on the kids.

I knew even though she was framing it that way, it was a test. It always is with her. If I would have said let's not celebrate at all, she would have been pissed. So instead I said sure, we can celebrate it. Maybe get each other a small(er) gift and call it good? She said sure, sounded good to her.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago. I asked her parents if they'd watch the kids, so we could celebrate Valentine's Day. They said sure. So I made a dinner reservation for Valentine's Day. Figured I'd take my pwBPD out to dinner and maybe get her some flowers or a small gift. Try to be nice. Go above and beyond like I always do.

I mentioned to my pwBPD a few days later that her parents were going to watch the kids so we could celebrate. She said cool, that would be nice. I asked if she still wanted to do gifts and stuff. She reiterated that we both had a lot of expenses lately and debts, so maybe just skip doing gifts or a small gift. I said okay, how about I take you out to dinner for Valentine's Day and you can buy me a small gift to celebrate. She said great, sounds like a plan.

I mistakenly thought that was the end of the "issue" in regards to Valentine's Day and spending money. We were eating dinner last night and Valentine's Day was advertised. So she asked if I was going to get her flowers or a gift for Valentine's Day. I responded honestly and said, "No, I wasn't planning on it. We agreed I'd take you out to dinner and you'd get me a small gift. Since we're trying to focus on our expenses and debts."

Wrong answer. Failed the test. She flipped out about how I'm an asshole, flowers aren't that expensive, I never buy her flowers, the least I can do is buy her some flowers for Valentine's Day in addition to paying for dinner. She then went off on a tangent about how she doesn't care about going out to dinner, that's all for me, we never do anything she wants or cares about, I'm selfish, and on and on and on and on.

I told her today I'd just cancel dinner for Valentine's Day. We can celebrate however she'd like or not at all. Up to her.

So I'm already dreading Valentine's Day. I love special occasions/holidays so much with her.