For the exes of borderlines

I bet if I offered anyone here that is an ex of a pwbpd the chance to completely wipe your memory of them, most would jump at the chance. And for the longest time I would have too.

But then what would be the point of it? then the months/years/decades you spent with them would truly be a complete waste. You wouldn't have learnt a damn thing. And trust me, they taught you many lessons not only about them but more importantly about yourself. You'd just be an innocent lamb ready for the slaughter again to another manipulative, abusive, cheating, soulless lie of a human being.

Now you know people like this exist and there's no going back.

They showed you your weaknesses so take it for the lesson that it is and realise that they chose you because you have a good heart and you simply hadn't learnt your lesson yet. You might tell yourself you will never love the same again and that ain't so bad because you gave them so much of it you forfeited the love you should have been giving to yourself. And they didn't take it away from you, it's still in there you're just more cautious not to give it away so easily now.

Being with a pwbpd will change you. For better or worse, that part is up to you. The world will never be the same and that's okay.