Do we believe in soulmates?

I am a 25F married to a 26M for a year but together for 7. (Met in middle school turned School sweethearts)

I met someone else through work and had no barriers or boundaries up because their age was so off from mine and he knew I was married. I didn't think there was any risk for my marriage to be jeopardized since I had no interest in anybody other than my husband.

After having spent a few work days with this guy it became hard to deny the fact that there was some interesting chemistry... Which threw me through a mind loop because 1) I'm married and have never had eyes for anyone else or even considered looking 2) this guy is way older, 41, 16 years older than me.

Hubby started to pick up on our conversations being too friendly and me being there for long hours which was innocent at first, then one night we were manning the biz and no other employees so we had too much alone time.. and I wish I had just left earlier like I had said but this guy was so magnetic, I just couldn't step away from him. Like my whole life blurred when I was with him.

What's really interesting is that this experience has now thrown me through a quarter life crisis. It's revealed things about my marriage and myself that I had been suppressing or ignoring and so now Im in a position of being married but my heart it split. I'm also a Christian... Which makes this all so much more messier.

I haven't seen or spoken to 41M in 3 months but each passing day seems to be the same or worse with how much he's in my mind. Was he my soulmate? Was he the one? Why did God direct me to walk into this business and initially help this man?

Emotional safety was there. Self sacrifice was there. Stability was there. It was all there. I wasn't even attracted to him but his SOUL I was so attracted to. He made me feel a sexual energy and need that I'd never felt with my husband.

Now I feel like a completely different person with different needs, wants, focuses and ambitions.

I just want to know why this man had such a crazy effect on me. I don't plan on leaving my husband as we are working on repairing the marriage.... But I really need to sort this out because it's not fair to my husband to have a wife wondering if somebody else is her soulmate.

It's all a super shitty situation.

My suspicious tell me that his age has alot to do with it now because I can magically pick up on if a guy is over 40 or just pushed 40.. and.. the attraction to men of this age is also a new development that I feel terrible about.