Men do you think it's a good thing to be extrinsically motivated?

Extrinsically motivated means

When someone performs an action because they expect to get something in return or avoid something unpleasant.

A female coworker who I adore, she made me better if it weren't for her kind words. I would've never cemented my style. I look the best I've ever looked and she's a lady who mostly speaks Spanish. So she really pushed me weather she knew it or not to go outside of my comfort zone looks wise and learn a skill. I was told that I'm extrinsically motivated. Which is true I need someone to inspire me.

Men statistically make more money when married than not. Because not just men but women too need to opposite sex to make them better as partners or as people. Is what I'm saying stupid perhaps idk. Just food for thought.