AIO i just had a realization that my husband is not taking care of me at all

Im 30 and hes 33. Weve been married for 2 years and have a toddler together. So what happened today is i went to the dentist and i need to get braces but i dont have my own money cause im a sahm (i want to work but my husband doesnt) my parents are paying for them as a birthday gift. After the dentist appointment i was talking to my mom and she told me that later after the braces i will fix my eyesight too cause im basically blind without glasses. When she told me that they will pay for the eye surgery too something clicked in my head and ive never had a feeling like this before. I realized that my parents are the ones taking care of me instead of my husband who said that he’s responsible for me cause i dont work and taking care of our child. So i started going back with memories and im still shocked.

When i gave birth i had the most intense back pain and i could barely get out of bed. Everytime i asked my husband to give me a massage for a bit so the pain wouldnt be so bad he refused saying im tired i cant. This went for almost two weeks and then i asked my mom to give me a massage and she would come at our place just so she could help me. She even bought a massager so my husband could give me massages easier but still he refused to do anything.

Even tho he knows that i have no money he still gives me only about 20 bucks for groceries a week. Groceries are far more than that and i still use my parents money for food for us. He complains how he doesnt have money and his salary is late every month but somehow he always has money for expensive toys for our child.

He doesnt do anything around the house just leave a mess behind him and i feel like his maid. There are so many other situations where my parents were the ones taking care of me and helping me but this today was an eye opener. I dont know if the anger in me is taking right now or what im feeling is justified.