People who married young, what is/was your relationship like? How about the sex?

By young, I mean like early 20’s. I know it’s very personal, but I’m so curious because I never married or really entertained the idea of marriage as a JW (I don’t swing that way and just accepted that relationships were off the table for me lol).

When dating, did you feel like you really got enough time alone to know each other as deeply as you should? What kind of qualities were you looking for in your “mate” (ew) and did you actually find someone like that or was it more like you settled for someone due to lack of options? How did cohabitation go, especially since you can’t experience that before marriage? How do you feel about the headship arrangement shit?

And how was the sex, considering you aren’t even allowed to masturbate and have to go into marriage with literally 0 experience? Especially for women, was it hard to let go of the sexual repression stuff we’ve been indoctrinated with? I don’t see JWs talk about this, but women from other high-control groups seem to talk a lot about how sex was painful and they dreaded it. Did you ever find it painful or had it feel like a chore? Were you and your spouse able to communicate about it openly, or was it awkward?